31 - Bidi- Best - Friday, 28 February 2003

No. 31 
Bidi- Best 
Friday, 28 February 2003 

Dear Amare-Amuri, 

9. "The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second-best time is now." 

   - Explanation: This proverb emphasizes the importance of taking action, even if you have missed the optimal time to do so.  

I missed the time to say goodbye to my second elder brother before he left the house, but I won’t give up on our relationship. It means so much to me. In the future I will reach out more often as we both age and wizen up in time.  

It suggests that while it’s ideal to start projects or initiatives early, it is still beneficial to begin now rather than delaying further. 

I started this project because I do not want you to go through the same mistakes the men in my family did and have the same life that they did. I am declaring and decreeing that your life will be greater. I am declaring and decreeing that your life will be an example. I am declaring and decreeing that your journey will be a testimony.  

 Procrastination can lead to missed opportunities, but starting now can still yield positive results.  

I hope these letters yield a positive result in your life. Or in the life of someone else who reads these letters. So that they can be inspired! Just as I was inspired to write them.  

It highlights the value of prompt action and making the most of the present. Taking action today can lead to future benefits. 

I am taking the opportunity to go back to 2003 to write about issues that I could not write about when I was growing up and in high school because I did not have the wisdom to deal with them in a positive and uplifting manner. I am more optimistic, peaceful and joyful. Nothing bothers me much. I do not worry. I do not fret. I do not complain. I am content. God has got me. I know my journey with my health battles has not been easy on my family. But I know God put me on this Earth for a reason and I will fulfill His Plan for my life.  

   - Action Step: Choose a goal or project you have been delaying. Take one concrete step today towards making it a reality. 

For I know the Plans I have towards you. Plans to Prosper You and to give You an Expected End. I know what I have planned for this project. But I won’t be revealing that!  

All my love, 
Mama 

30 - Ng’ato- Fool - Friday, 28 February 2003

No. 30 
Ng’ato- Fool 
Friday, 28 February 2003 

Dear Amare-Amuri, 

8. "He who asks is a fool for five minutes, but he who does not ask remains a fool forever." 

   - Explanation: This proverb underscores the value of asking questions and seeking knowledge. It suggests that asking questions may make one appear foolish momentarily, but not asking can result in long-term ignorance.  

People may see me as asking questions as annoying. But I never want to assume anything. That is why I always ask questions. Time after time. So that I completely understand the issue. Then I can make an appropriate and wise decision. After having all my questions answered.  

The willingness to seek answers is essential for growth and learning.  

Seeking answers to my questions is essential for my growth and learning with God and I want my faith and confidence in Him to Grow as I mature and age in human years. And to not repeat the mistakes of my ancestors. Or family members. 

It encourages a proactive approach to acquiring knowledge. 

Acquiring knowledge is good. Hating knowledge is bad. That is why I try and read people and the room.  

Embracing curiosity and asking questions leads to better understanding and personal development. 

I am always curious because I embrace curiousity and asking questions leads me to better understand people and their needs and their developmental habits and requirements.  

   - Action Step: Identify a topic or area where you have unanswered questions. Take steps to seek information or ask for clarification to enhance your understanding. 

An area that I have questions about is pharmacology. How do they come up with the chemical components to make the medications? How do they know it is the right combination for the medication? How do they know what the price is for the medication? Why do they do the placebo test in trial runs and how effective is it? 

All my love, 
Mama

29 - Nyoro- Sharing - Frdiay, 28 February 2003

No. 29 
Nyoro- Sharing 
Frdiay, 28 February 2003 

Dear Amare-Amuri, 

7. "A wise person never tries to explain his or her philosophy to fools." 

   - Explanation: This proverb advises that sharing deep or complex ideas with those who do not understand or appreciate them is often a waste of time.  

Do not share complex ideas with those who do not understand or appreciate them because they will consider it a waste of time. Like this project you are writing. Those who understand will understand, Those who won’t won’t. Just be at peace and write from the heart.  

Wisdom involves recognizing when it is not worth the effort to explain oneself to individuals who are not receptive or capable of understanding.  

It also involves not explaining your story to people who sit there, and smile and you yet are digging your grave for you behind your back. Be careful who you trust. Not everyone can be trusted. Trust yourself first and foremost. Mete out trust in small percentages after that.  

It also suggests focusing your energy on those who value and seek knowledge.  

You can seek knowledge from those who value knowledge and apply it to your own life. But only if it fits your circumstances or situation.  

It serves as a guide for effective communication and intellectual engagement.  

Knowing when to keep silent is a skill many have yet to master. Effective communication is shutting your mouth. Not opening it and speaking.  

Knowing when to withhold explanations can be a sign of wisdom. 

Knowing when to withhold explanations can be a sign of wisdom and insight because you do not know who the next person is that individual is going to tell. Keep the mouth of the well shut. Keep your business private. Do not share information that you would not want your family to know first. If you do not tell your family first then do not tell another person. This may be difficult. But it is worth it.  

Take me for example. A lot of times I trusted others outside of my family for guidance and support and it turned out that they turned away from me and scorned me to the rest of the world. So I only had family to rely on. No one wanted to be my friend, No one wanted to talk to me. No one wanted to be with me. I was alone. But I had my parents. So that was okay. But I realized if I was going to make it into this world and be successful, I had to trust God and not fret or worry over anything no matter what humanity did or said against me. God was for me. So, who could be against me? With that knowledge and assurance and faith I stepped out in faith and my faith has kept me going through the difficult moments of battling certain issues that I am dealing with currently. And He will continue to make a way throughout my life when it seems that there is no way.  

   - Action Step: Evaluate recent conversations where you tried to explain something complex.  

I tried to explain to Sanzira that I was not stupid because of what we were discussing at that point in time and she realized that she had misjudged me. I forgot what we had been discussing. But the conversation reframed her perception of me.  

Consider whether your efforts were appreciated and whether your energy might be better spent elsewhere. 

My efforts with Sanzira were appreciated and even though she left the home seven years later I still appreciated her ability to cut to the issue without trying to insult me. With other people? That is a Sanzira issue. Not a me issue.  

All my love, 
Mama 

28 - Mugumo- Baobab - Friday, 28 February 2003

No. 28 
Mugumo- Baobab 
Friday, 28 February 2003 

Dear Amare-Amuri, 

6. "Wisdom is like a baobab tree; no one individual can embrace it." 

   - Explanation: This proverb compares wisdom to a large baobab tree, indicating its vastness and the idea that no single person can possess all knowledge.  

I do not know everything. No one person does. I seek to learn through listening deeply. Through understanding intuitively. Through grasping concepts quietly and quickly by observing the room around me without saying anything. That is how I gain wisdom and knowledge. I notice people talk because they are:  

 (1) Frustrated- People are frustrated and talk a lot especially about themselves because they do not know what to do or how to handle the silence in the conversation that has naturally taken place. Instead of enjoying and reveling in the silence and thinking deeply in silence they open their mouths and say whatever comes out damaging their emotional closeness with the other individual who may see them as overbearing, talkative, and frustrated who cannot handle pressure or conversations in a wise and constructive way without feeling a need to talk. Or that they do not understand other cultures wherein silence in a conversation is both natural and necessary. As well as expected. And appreciated. And the other individual realizes quickly in dealing with the frustrated individual that the individual who is frustrated says what4ever is on their mind without thinking and might lose relationships or key assets in future dealings because they do not know how to control their tongue.  

(2) Uncomfortable- People are uncomfortable and talk a lot because they do not know what to say. Or what not to say.   

(3) Nervous: People are nervous, and they either shut down and become unresponsive to all communication methods or talk a lot due to anxiety. Nothing wrong either. It must be controlled with a list of pointers on what to say and then leave. And medication as well.  

(3) Jittery- People are jittery and talk excessively to win favors or points with another person. They just win nothing but disinterest and push the other person away.

Wisdom is accumulated through collective experience and shared learning.  

Shared learning to me is reading the Bible and learning with my father what is means to lead a good Messianic Jewish life.  

It encourages humility and the recognition that learning is a continuous process.  

Learning indeed is a continuous process. It involves starting the process of opening your mind to new ideas and experiences and opening your heart to wisdom and knowledge without any bias or inner conflict.  

Embracing wisdom requires openness to different perspectives and contributions from others.  

Embracing wisdom requires an openness to listening to other people and their different perspectives and not jumping in with your own. But to be still and let them be heard. Without your lips moving. But your ears peeled and opened for insight, wisdom, understanding, and guidance from them.  

This highlights the importance of communal learning and collaboration. 

You both are learning from each other. They are learning how to communicate from your side. You are learning how to communicate from their side. Respect each other's communication styles and do not judge each other because of it. Seek to understand. Ask questions. Be a keen learner. Have a growth mindset. Be open-minded about it. Do not close yourself off from learning about others and their cultures. The more you know, the more informed you will be when making decisions when dealing with people from around the world. Especially in life. And especially in school.  

Never judge.  

Always appreciate.  

   - Action Step: Seek out diverse viewpoints and experiences to enhance your understanding of a subject. Engage in discussions with others to broaden your perspective. 

Engage in discussions that are respectful, open, and kindhearted and honest.  

All my love, 
Mama